Marriage
When the family of a man are introduced to the family of a woman, and both consent to the two individuals living together. When the two live together, they are married. Individuals, however, have to search for their potential partners, whom God had predestined for them, Proverbs 18:22; He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favour from the Lord.
Genesis 24:66-67; Then the servant told Isaac all he had done. 67 Isaac brought her into the tent of his mother Sarah, and he married Rebekah. So, she became his wife, and he loved her; and Isaac was comforted after his mother’s death.
When God has indeed blessed a union, then the Laws do not apply, because there is no Law against Love or God. God is the Law Giver. Acts 10:14; The voice spoke to him a second time, “Do not call anything impure that God has made clean.”
There are marriages not blessed by God, such as the case of David and Michal (proud woman), the first wife of David, see 1 Samuel 18:22-28, that David stuck with even after she was involved in adultery by being married to another man. David demanded that she returns to him in 2 Samuel 3:12-21, and she did.
Adultery and Divorce
Matthew 5:27-32
Adultery
27 “You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ 28 But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. 29 If your right eye causes you to stumble, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell. 30 And if your right hand causes you to stumble, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to go into hell.
Divorce
31 “It has been said, ‘Anyone who divorces his wife must give her a certificate of divorce.’ 32 But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, makes her the victim of adultery, and anyone who marries a divorced woman commits adultery.
Deut.24:1-4; If a man marries a woman who becomes displeasing to him because he finds something indecent about her, and he writes her a certificate of divorce, gives it to her and sends her from his house, 2 and if after she leaves his house she becomes the wife of another man, 3 and her second husband dislikes her and writes her a certificate of divorce, gives it to her and sends her from his house, or if he dies, 4 then her first husband, who divorced her, is not allowed to marry her again after she has been defiled. That would be detestable in the eyes of the Lord. Do not bring sin upon the land the Lord your God is giving you as an inheritance.
Matthew 19:1-12; When Jesus had finished saying these things, he left Galilee and went into the region of Judea to the other side of the Jordan. 2 Large crowds followed him, and he healed them there. 3 Some Pharisees came to him to test him. They asked, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any and every reason?” 4 “Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’ 5 and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? 6 So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore, what God has joined together, let no one separate.” 7 “Why then,” they asked, “did Moses command that a man give his wife a certificate of divorce and send her away?” 8 Jesus replied, “Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because your hearts were hard. But it was NOT THIS WAY FROM THE BEGINNING. 9 I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery.” 10 The disciples said to him, “If this is the situation between a husband and wife, IT IS BETTER NOT TO MARRY.” 11 Jesus replied, “Not everyone can accept this word, but only those to whom it has been given. 12 For there are eunuchs who were born that way, and there are eunuchs who have been made eunuchs by others—and there are those who CHOOSE TO LIVE LIKE EUNUCHS FOR THE SAKE OF THE KINGDOM OF HEAVEN. THE ONE WHO CAN ACCEPT THIS SHOULD ACCEPT IT.”
Adultery is more complex than the secular world views it, while many men are or were engaged in polygamy in the biblical sense, some of them unaware of it. The original plan of God was monogamy, but this had been modified to accommodate polygamy due to the activities of man. (Abraham, Sarah and Hagar; Jacob, Leah and Rachael; David and Solomon) While the sin of adultery is not the only sin committed by the active party, there is the sin committed by the passive party, of indirectly causing the active party to commit adultery. Within these contexts, the onus is on the man, to initiate divorce proceedings, however, matters become complicated when the woman does not commit adultery and the man or woman initiates divorce. The divorcees then marry again or remarry, which actually results in adultery and the sin of instigating to adultery. Man has, and sometimes do, dig himself into a hole, that he can not get out of, and only God can and does lifts man out of the hole, not man by himself, not through reparations, or whatever other means concocted by man.
